I was very influenced by the HBO 2 part special on Saddam Hussein.
The overarching message was that he killed everyone who disagreed with him.
He became incredibly paranoid and convinced everyone was out to get him.
Granted, there were a lot of people out to get him. But he couldn’t tell the difference between those who were trying to help him and those who were trying to get him.
If you didn’t agree with him he killed you. That’s a terrible management strategy. You need good, honest advisers around you.
Ultimately, he ended up in a hole in the ground looking like this:
Saddam was like many small business owners.
He was exhausted, paranoid, beat up and attacked at every angle.
If there is a psyche of a person I’ve gotten to know over the years it’s small business owners.
I work with them a lot and I am one. That dual role (living with them and being them) gives me a deep sense of understanding and empathy. I get, to the core, why they are the way they are.
Here are some adjectives that come to mind when I think of small business owners. It isn’t every small business owner because they are a varied group. But I would say I see these character traits more often than not:
Pros:
- Warriors
- Persistent
- Knowledgeable in core small business philosophy
- Self-assured
Cons:
- Tired
- Suspicious
- Arrogant
- Myopic
I think it’s important to say that while the “cons” sound bad, it’s important to know that small business owners have only become that way because they are a product of their experiences.
They are tired because they have been beat down by vendors, customers and the government for years and years.
They are suspicious because many people have tried to take advantage of them. Everybody is testing to see if they’ve just encountered a sucker.
They are arrogant because they are the only people in their lives that have been willing to take risks and make big moves.
They are myopic because they don’t have enough money to hire enough people to get all the work done. So they end up vacuuming the floor before clients come to the office.
Yes they are bad traits but it’s not because they are bad people. They are just products of their environment.
This is how Saddam ended up in a hole looking like a homeless man. This can happen to you. (Well maybe not literally in a hole. But you get the analogy.)
While these Cons are nothing to feel guilty about or to feel that they represent you as a human, make no mistake. They are cons and they are limiting your growth potential.
Here’s how to get over them.
I strongly recommend reading the “Daily Practice” by James Altucher here:
How to be THE LUCKIEST GUY ON THE PLANET in 4 Easy Steps Altucher Confidential
I’ve seen versions of this from other people but this is a very good process.
If you can implement that practice into your daily life I promise you those cons will melt away.
That said, time is never on the side of the small business owner. Because of that, I’ve become a fan of drugs.
I do 20 mg a day of Citalopram. It’s used to treat depression.
I would not say that I’m deeply depressed. But my doctor definitely thinks I’m depressed. If you look at the con list they align pretty closely to the signs of depression.
I know taking drugs to deal with emotions is a taboo topic. But I don’t really care.
The cons in that list for me have significantly lessened.
If you are in the anti-drug crowd then I highly recommend strenuous exercise. Like running.
Running is actually a stronger drug, in my opinion. I will often reach levels of euphoria. The big difference is that the Citalopram is more even.
Running is more spikey. I feel omnipotent for a couple hours but then fall pretty quickly back into my negative thought pattern.
But whatever you are comfortable doing: just do it!
You can’t will your way out of those Con characteristics. You have to work your way out of them.
But I’m here to tell you, if you don’t manage them they will just get bigger and bigger. They will end up consuming you to the point of implosion. Trust me. I’ve seen it.















